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| The board administrator has requested that all new registered users must agree to the following terms before registering and using the services on the board "Perfectly Still". Please read the following terms and if you agree to them, select the "I agree" button found at the bottom of the terms. |
! The member agrees to indemnify and hold us harmless from any claims resulting from the use of the services, which damage the member or any other party.!
1. 'Perfectly Still' is a forum for SUPPORT of Survivors dealing with any form of Sexual Abuse as well as Aftermath issues. We do NOT tolerate Harassing, Name Calling, Slandering or any other form of Verbal or Emotional Abuse in this forum. If we do see any form of Harassment such as Negativity towards someone's past decisions, issues with prejudices, mental disorders, vulgar pictures or language your IP address will be banned and you will no longer be allowed to use this forum. We are NOT here to hurt people, we are here to heal. It doesn't matter how long you were a member here, how long WE knew you, who your best friend is or what standing you have above anyone, we are all equal when we are in this forum and it's protection must be taken seriously, no second changes.
2. Religion is a huge part of some people's lives and we fully support this. But Religion can also have a triggering painful effect on people's lives who have been tormented by the issue so we ask that you do not come into this forum preaching gospel. You may make reference to God for example "God helped me." but we ask that be all! We do not need sermons here, this place is for healing through connection only. Some issues are sensitive.
3. Refrain from conflict in this forum. It is one thing to Debate on an issue but when the matter is taken too seriously that is when we have problems of our own. Debates, Constructive Criticisms and Freedom of Speech are open so long as you respect the person you are having these discussions with and do not let the manners get out of hand. If we do see conflict we will erase any conflicting posts and you will be banned to keep the forum clean and protected from intentional negativity. Discuss your problems, do not enable them.
4. Keep all bad language to a minimum, no intentional TRIGGERING talk in order to shame others. Triggering talk is allowed only when venting and in the appropriate forum. If you are intending on speaking about some material which may be potentially triggering all that we ask is that you let us know by placing a *T* mark above / before you write something.
5. Please keep an open mind in this forum. We are never all the same in our healing process. This must be recognized in care and support.
6. Do not give out personal information, this will only be deleted and you will be banned for doing so. This includes, phone numbers, home addresses, social security numbers, license numbers ..ect. E-Mail addresses are fine to post, so is the state you live in but that is it. Do not give out someone else's E-mail address.
7. No Suicidal Notes or so longs. We understand the need to vent it out and that's a great thing but when it comes to suicide we are just not the people to turn to for help. You will need to please contact your local police or rape crisis center. Or possibly call RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) 1.800.656.HOPE for more information on how you can get help.
8. "You weren't there for me" <---Now that's just not acceptable. If we are not "There for you" we were probably out of the forum in our real lives. This forum should not be your safety net. This forum is intended for aside healing purposes. It is merely a place to go to and talk about your issues and problems, this forum is not something you should grow attached to and become dependant upon. There are other forms of help from therapy to hotlines, to self awareness. We are not your counselors, do NOT get angry with us if we are not there to help you all of the time, we can only try our best and we always care about you no matter what.
9. We will absolutely under no circumstances discuss forum business with those who are NOT staff members. This includes decisions about banning, contests before they begin or any other tid bits that don't need to be discussed with members who are not in our direct staff. If you do have a question for the forum we will answer only those we can in the "Forum Questions/ Complaints" forum. As for discussing personal issues between members and ourselves which is confidential, please don't ask, we will only advise you to read this rule again.
10. Please, if you are having a serious troubled situation with another Survivor on this board come to us first for assistance before you go attempting on slandering them on the board which can get you banned for harassment. If you can't come to us we suggest that you try to ignore the problem until someone else comes along. Either way you have one option. We would love to be there for you and help you but we can only do this if you open up to us. You may do this by E-Mailing us at webmaster@aftertherain.com or through U2U.
11. Please be respectful of the reason for this forum. This means have common decency and do not sign up for alterior motives. NO signing up with the intent to promote a commercial site or post porn in any way shape or form. If you do this, you will be deleted as a member and your IP address banned.
12. If you are under 18 years of age: Please be advised that this site does include discussions and a theme of a sexual nature. While this is not intending to be presented in a crude or pornographic manner, it may not be suitable for those of a younger age. Please be advised that by becoming a member you agree that you are mature enough to handle the content.
We hope that everyone can comply to these rules and apply them to this forum out of respect and support for everyone around you. These rules are not here to scare you or give you any thoughts that we are "Mean and harsh" we are very loving gentle people and we place these rules here for the protection of the Survivors to your left and right. We NEED your support and your care as well but to do this we all must stand together and make it known that more abuse cannot continue and it it through love and support that we make it a more safer place for all Survivors to enjoy. There is a lot more positively to go around if we can all have some common understanding between one another about how this place is administered. Thank you and welcome to 'Perfectly Still'.
Sincerely, Kali & Stine
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